Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Faith NOT Panic


Would you agree if is said something as cliche as "life is like a box of chocolates...you never know what your gonna get? "  Or better yet, would you agree that life has a funny way of being unpredictable or sometimes unstable? 


Now, you’re probably sick of this subject and everyone that tells you to have it but you know what, if we don’t talk about it, if we don’t think about it, we’re not going to learn anything from it. And if we don’t learn, we don’t grow.


So, that being said, the lesson I want to talk to you about today goes deeper and resonates more in our personal lives.  Its something someone told me years ago that somehow bounces around in my brain until it makes a connection, usually as a result of some newfound stress I or someone else has decided to add to my life and then BAM - there it is!  

Wait for it.....

Wait for it.........

Okay, here it is.................................Faith, is the ability to not panic!


I honestly could not tell you who said this to me, but that doesn’t make it any less relevant or effective.


Of course, any time the word “faith” is brought up, most of us automatically think about our respective religious beliefs. And, in that context, the words “faith” and “panic” never really find their way into the same sentence. In the Bible, “faith” defined in Hebrews 11:1 is the ”substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” There’s no hint of panic in that definition, is there?


The faith I want to talk about today is a little more defensive, a trait we can develop to keep us from going crazy when things get tough.

Here's a question worth pondering: 

You ever notice how much you find out about a person's character in rough times?

When the money’s rolling in and the clients are climbing over each other for product, there are those who seize each and every opportunity to brag about their sales prowess or how huge their next commission check’s going to be.  When things get tough though, some of those same people tend to shrivel up and die just like the market.  They become unsure of themselves, they lose focus, they blame others or don't offer solutions...all because they panic.


Panic is not necessarily hysteria. In fact, more often than not, panic causes silence. Instead of barreling around the office, going crazy, most people tend to clam up when they panic. They shut down. They might become frazzled, but however they manifest it, they are ineffective.


Let’s face it, we’re all scared of something. And for many of us, our fear focuses on our finances. Say that five times fast, right? We want to make sure we’ll be able to provide for our families, to pay for our cars or homes, to keep the lights on and food on the table.

What happens to us when a dark period comes along?

Those fears we can usually push to the back of our brain in good times come rushing to the front and center. They take over and, for many of us, cause a paralysis of panic. And just like a dog can sense when you’re afraid, your fears can sense when you lack faith.

 
The mind is a powerful tool, but an even more powerful weapon. In good times, we tend to coast a little, don’t we? Faith in yourself and in your chosen field is pretty easy when there’s no evidence of cracks in the foundation. But when times go bad and business goes south, that easy faith dissipates quickly into the fog of fear. Our minds tend to be much more adept at conjuring up worst case scenarios than imagining how great things will be again. It’s a part of our nature that is difficult to overcome.

So, what do we do?

I could give you a thousand words here about positive thinking and everything else you would expect but sometimes the most powerful way to say something is also the easiest: 

Just Believe.


Every day I resolve to seek Progress, not Perfection and progress starts with my ability to believe.  Do you?

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Mental Toughness - Part 3

Wow...talk about mental toughness and turning focus on and off!  I have had the fortunate opportunity to travel extensively over the last few months and had to turn my focus towards serving those who contracted me verses taking the time to complete my thoughts for you.  As I spoke of in Part 2, sometimes its a necessary function in life.  

Good news is that I am back in the saddle and ready to finish this ride with you.

Getting back to our discussion about Mental Toughness I want to cover the last aspect that Dr. Yukelson writes about; composure. In this case, composure is about staying cool and handling the pressure of doing business. Sure, in an ideal world, we’d all make the smart decisions all of the time to avoid problems. 

But you know what? We don’t. None of us are 100% on 100% of the time. It sucks, but it’s the truth. So, we have to know that we’re going to have to handle pressure from time to time and be able to thrive on it.

Composure is not just about embracing pressure and staying cool. It’s also about regaining your psychological footing after a distraction or setback. Lets be honest.  We’re all going to experience bumps in the road, but how we drive after we hit them shows what kind of character we have. Do we become timid and lose confidence in our driving ability? Or, do we blaze ahead too fast, hitting more bumps and trash the car? Neither of these is the reaction of choice. Ideally, if we have good composure, we forge ahead along the road, mindful of other bumps that might be ahead, but never doubting that we will get wherever we’re going. 

I would encourage you at this point to go back and read all three parts of this series to refresh or recharge your mind.  Our goal here is to fortify our minds and accomplish the goals we have set for ourselves. 

I want to encourage you to believe in your abilities, keep your motivation high and your focus nimble, but true, and have your composure to protect it all.

I resolve to seek progress everyday, will you join me?  Good luck, my mentally tough friend.